What to do when your baby hates bath time: Tips and tricks for stress-free baths
Gaye Padir
Gaye Padir
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Newborns often love the bath, and it can be a great way to soothe them during those dreaded ‘witching hours.'
But soap and slipperiness can take away the joy for some little ones. Whether their bath time fear starts from day one or is a new development in your home, rest assured that this cosy bonding time isn’t a lost cause.
Why do babies hate the bath?
Despite the soothing allure of warm water and gentle bubbles, many babies have a strong aversion to the bath.
While this rejection leaves parents puzzled and frustrated, there are many reasons this can happen: from sensory sensitivities and fear of water to changes in routine. Pinpointing the issue is the key to getting your bub in the tub.
Here are a few things to be aware of:
- This is completely normal and is often just a phase.
- It could have to do with their newfound independence and feeling out of control.
- They just might not love the water, not all babies are water babies.
- The temperature might not be to their liking – is it too hot or cold?
- Did they have a bad bath experience? Did water get in their eyes or did they slip?
- Some babies may particularly hate getting their hair washed and water on their face.
- Have they got a cut or sore, sensitive skin or nappy rash? Anything that would be irritated or might sting in the water might be causing their refusal.
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How to manage bath-time resistance
It’s important that you take their fears seriously and don’t force them to get into the bath if they are upset or distressed. If you manage to get them in, don’t stay too long – keep it short and sweet and build up gradually.
Talk them through the process of running the bath and let them feel the water on their skin before putting them in. Make it an enjoyable experience, sing songs, and bring bath toys.
Setting up a comfortable bathing environment
Creating a comfortable bathing environment for your little one is a must. There are a couple of things you can do to help your baby grow a liking for bath time.
First things first, make sure you’re scheduling bath time when the room temperature is just right. No one likes hopping in and out of a bath when it’s too cold. Try to maintain an ideal room temperature, ideally between 24-27°C.
Next, use baby-friendly bath products that are gentle on sensitive skin, avoiding harsh chemicals and fragrances. Baby skin is 10 times more sensitive than adult skin, so make sure the products you’ve got lined up for bath time are safe and dermatologically tested.
Finally, ensure a calm atmosphere for your little one. Try to minimise noise and distractions, so your baby can feel more relaxed and secure during bath time.
Gathering necessary supplies
Here are what we’re classifying ‘the bath time essentials’ that you should secure before your baby’s bath:
Baby towels and washcloths
Opt for soft, gentle towels and washcloths designed specifically for babies. These items should be made from hypoallergenic materials to avoid irritating or damaging their skin. Having a couple of baby towels on hand helps you quickly wrap your little one in warmth after the bath, while soft washcloths are perfect for a gentle cleansing sponge bath.
Gentle cleansers
Choose mild, fragrance-free cleansers formulated specifically for babies. These products are designed to be extra gentle on sensitive skin and avoid stripping away natural oils. When shopping for bath time soaps, look for cleansers labelled as “tear-free” to reduce the risk of discomfort when the inevitable soap in the eyes occurs during hair wash.
Bath toys
If there’s any way to entice your bub into the bathtub, it’s with toys. Bath toys can make the experience more enjoyable and engaging for your baby. Try to pick toys that are safe, easy to clean, and free of small parts. We recommend purchasing floating toys, cups for pouring, and soft rubber ducks to help distract and entertain your little one.
Tips for making bath time enjoyable
For newborns:
- For newborns and smaller babies, make sure they are in a small baby bath or have an elevated and supportive bath seat.
- Maintain eye contact and lots of smiles and songs.
- You can place a warm cloth or your hand on their chest to stop them from getting cold.
- Stay with your baby at all times.
- Small babies don’t need to be bathed every single day so if you’re struggling with it, give yourself a break and only do it every other day.
- Make the post-bath time extra special with lots of cuddles, massage and songs.
For older babies and toddlers:
- Get them to help you run the bath, pick which toys to take in, and even tell you what temperature they like. This will help them feel a part of the process.
- Have a bath with your child.
- Get a bath mat (non-slip) or stickers for the bottom of the tub so they feel safe.
- Don’t pull the plug while they are in there – the sound can be scary and overwhelming.
- Try bubble baths and lots of fun bath toys to entice them in.
- Sing songs and make it quality time with you.
- Your toddler might like to bring in a doll or toy (that is waterproof) that they can wash.
- You can get them special bath caps and goggles if they don’t like getting water/soap in their eyes.
- Explain to them that if they want to go outside and play and have adventures, they have to get clean at the end of the day.
Remember some kids are just not water lovers and that’s okay. They don’t have to love it, but they have to learn that good hygiene and cleanliness are a needed part of their daily routine.
Tips for post-bath care
Pat-drying techniques
Bath time doesn’t end when you empty the bathtub – now it’s time for that post-bath TLC.
After a bath, gently pat your baby’s skin dry with a soft towel (try not to rub; it’s a bit too aggressive for the baby’s skin). Patting helps to avoid irritating sensitive skin and reduces the risk of redness or dryness. Be especially careful around delicate areas, such as the folds of the skin, where moisture can linger. Patting dry also leaves a little moisture on the skin, which can help in locking in hydration.
Choosing appropriate moisturisers
Choose a moisturiser specifically formulated for babies to ensure it’s gentle and free from harsh chemicals. Look for products with natural ingredients, such as shea butter or aloe vera, which are known for their soothing properties. Applying a thin layer of moisturiser right after drying is beneficial as it will help keep your baby’s skin soft and hydrated, protecting it from dryness and irritation.
Comforting and calming baby after bath
Using a favourite blanket
Wrap your baby in a favourite soft blanket or a snuggly towel to provide extra comfort and warmth post-bath. Familiar fabrics can soothe and help your baby transition from bath time to bedtime. The cosy feeling of the blanket can also help your baby feel secure and calm, making them feel better about bath time.
Immediate cuddling
Take the opportunity to cuddle your baby immediately after the bath, especially if they’re in hysterics. Close physical contact reassures your baby that they’re safe whilst reinforcing the bond between you and them. Gentle, loving cuddles can help your baby feel comfortable and relaxed.
Maintaining a consistent routine
Consistency is key to making bath time a positive experience for your baby. Establish a regular bathtime routine and follow it each day – we’re talking same time, same bathtub, same after-care routine. Consistency helps your baby anticipate what’s coming next, creating a sense of security and predictability. Over time, this routine can help reduce bath time anxiety and make the process smoother for both you and your baby.
Keep your cool and don’t delay
Seeing your baby upset can upset you too. You might ‘feel bad’ and get anxious when your baby cries at bath time, which inadvertently draws the bathing process out longer. Stay calm and get the job done quickly. Your baby will be okay – give them plenty of love and cuddles but push through it.
Addressing persistent bath time issues
If bath time continues to be a struggle despite your best efforts, it may be time to explore deeper issues or alternative methods.
Be aware of signs such as persistent crying, intense fear, or physical reactions like flinching away from water, as these could signal sensory sensitivities, past traumatic experiences, or other developmental concerns.
Reach out to your GP if you notice troubling signs or if your baby’s bath time anxiety doesn’t improve. They can assess any medical or developmental concerns contributing to the issue.
Exploring alternative bathing methods
- Using bath seats or supports: Bath seats or supports can provide extra security and stability for your baby during bath time. These devices can help your baby feel more supported and less slippery, which may reduce anxiety.
- Trying different bath times: Experiment with different times of day for bath time. Some babies might be more relaxed in the morning or early afternoon rather than before bedtime.
- Exploring different bath types: A shallow sink bath, a gentle shower (with a handheld shower head if possible), or even a big tub (with a parent of course) might be less intimidating.
Wrapping it up
If your baby isn’t loving the bath just yet, stay calm!
Find a way to understand what the crying and screaming are communicating. Most of the time, small changes, additions or avoidances, will help when a baby hates baths.
Sources
Pregnancy, Birth & Baby, Washing your baby, October 2021
Raising Children, Fear of the Bath: babies and toddlers, April 2023
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