Explaining stranger danger to your child

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As a parent, you are constantly fraught with plenty of worries over your child’s safety and well-being. From falling while playing to allowing them to do things on their own, your child is vulnerable and will need some guidance to navigate the world around them.
Stranger danger is a topic your little one should start being aware of from a young age, but how exactly do you do that effectively?
Start explaining the concept of strangers
To keep it as simple as possible with them, let them know that anyone who they do not know is considered a stranger. Try your best to use a calm tone when talking about this subject so you don’t unnecessarily scare them. Saying things like “a stranger will take you away from me forever” would only cause unneeded stress for your child. Let them know that a stranger isn’t necessarily a bad or good person, just someone they should not speak to or do anything with.
Point out exactly who is in your family’s safe circle
Let them know who your family considers safe, including their grandparents, aunts, uncles, mum, and dad. Other than these people, make them aware of public safety people like a police officer or store employee. Help them see who these people are by pointing out the vests or colours of a typical safe person. For instance, a police officer will be in blue and wearing a vest. Finally, they should know that a teacher or counsellor, will also keep them safe when they’re not by your side.
Give them a game plan
Explain to them that if they are ever separated from you they should find an employee, tell them their name, and stay with them until you find them. Say something like, “if you lose mummy, go to the place where we pay for things and tell them you’re lost.” This will make it clear and not too scary for them.
Let them know how to firmly say no
When they are approached in a situation, they should have the tools to say no. Make sure they know when something feels ‘off’ and will say “No, thank you”. Show them how to empower themselves versus scaring them. If they were to be grabbed, tell them they are allowed to scream, yell, and create a scene to get attention.
Read about safety with each other
Help your little one learn with you side by side. This will be better because you’ll be explaining situations to them while making sure they are learning the information.
Stranger danger is a scary topic to teach your child about. You never want to imagine this happening, but having tools and knowledge is more powerful than ignoring it. The best tip is just to start the conversation and let them know how to spot a stranger. In the end, your little one will feel empowered and confident in themself.
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Women should ask themselves the following questions to help work out if anything is wrong: 1. Do you leak urine when you cough, sneeze, blow your nose, or exercise? 2. Do you leak urine on approach to the toilet or have you had an unexpected accident when you didn’t think you needed to go? 3. Do you find it difficult to control your bowels (wind or stool)? 4. Do you feel a sense of heaviness/ dragging in the vagina or rectum? 5. Do you feel something protruding from your vagina? 6. When you pass urine on the toilet, is it difficult or does it seem different to before? 7. Is sexual intercourse and intimacy painful? 8. Does sexual intercourse lack sensation or feeling? Ladies, if you answered Yes to any of these questions, then I would love you to get yourself to a Women’s Health Physiotherapist sooner rather than later, as the sooner we address the issue the better. Are there any quick fixes? Just like exercises, fitness, and weight loss, sadly there are no quick fixes. The pelvic floor is a group of muscles and just like those in your bicep, they will only get stronger from consistently exercising in a challenging way. The term ‘use it or lose it’ definitely applies to the pelvic floor. My main advice for women is firsty to learn how to do a pelvic floor activation the right way first. Many women can't believe how different a correct pelvic floor activation is when I teach them compared to what they thought and have been doing for years. The best way to learn really is to have a one off appointment with a pelvic floor physio who can assess what you are doing, give feedback and guide you. Then once you have it down pat, its important to add a little ‘spice’ to the program, as ill be the first to admit pelvic floor exercises are boring as anything. A few tips to prevent you from falling off the wagon, and keep you motivated: - Individualised program: Get a Pelvic floor program that is specifically tailored to you. 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