How do I know if my baby loves me?
You’re exhausted, sleep-deprived, covered in milk and in those dark moments you might start wondering if your baby actually loves you.
The good news is: YES!
Your baby absolutely adores you, and while the crying can make you feel otherwise at times, there are a few signs you can look out for that show you just how in love with you your baby is.
Eyes on you
Firstly, your baby knows who you are, what you sound like, and what you smell like. They know they can rely on you, and that you will be there for them. You might find your baby is unable to take their eyes off you (especially when they’re being held by someone else). This is your baby being utterly enamoured by you and wanting your reassurance that they’re safe.
Your baby’s attachment to you can be shown in so many different ways; they might look back and forth to you, trying to see if you’re still staring back at them or they might give you a cheeky little smile. While many people will tell you their smiles are just gas or a muscle reflex, ignore them; usually, your baby’s smiles are reflecting your own, a subconscious effort to bond further with you.
Babies love physical affection, and it’s where they create those strong bonds with you. As your baby develops they will start to reach out to you, a clear sign they love you and trust you.
Their face lights up
When your baby’s face lights up after not seeing you for a few hours, it shows just how strong your attachment is.
While crying can make you feel like they don’t love you, it’s actually quite the opposite, especially if you’re leaving. Separation Anxiety is real, and it isn’t pleasant for you or your baby, but it is a sign of deep love, as they know you’re their primary person. You should reassure your baby that you’re coming back, and eventually they’ll understand you are not abandoning them.
Sometimes it can feel overwhelming and upsetting when your baby is crying or cranky for you – and then a ‘little angel’ for everyone else. But remember that you are their safe space to feel what they need to feel and not hold it in. They know that you will love them no matter what, and that is truly special.
You know your baby, unlike anyone else, and they know that. You know how to cuddle them right, how to make them laugh and how to understand their needs. You are doing a great job, and your little bub knows it. They love you unconditionally and they know you do too!