As you know by now, pregnancy changes just about everything in your life. From your body to your moods, pretty much nothing escapes these nine months unscathed. At points you might feel like your relationship is hitting some speed bumps as well. Your hormones are pumping at unprecedented levels, so it’s obvious that your moods are going to be affected.
How you feel towards your partner can be quite different from before your little one took over your body and this is normal. Physically and emotionally, you are going through significant changes. Your confidence could be challenged which might confuse them and you, so taking the time to address these changes is beneficial.
Even though this is completely normal and to be expected, a few tips on how to improve your bond can bring you both closer together and ease some of the growing pains.
1. Talk talk talk This is easily the advice you are beyond tired of reading, but it truly helps! Even when you feel all talked out, communication never fails to ease some tension. Most problems come from a lack of communication and wrong interpretations. Avoid these problems by making it a priority to always be open about how you’re feeling. Let them know everything positive and negative about your goals and fears for your new family. Being open with them will help them understand how you’re feeling and get rid of possible conflicts.
2. Involve them in the process If you’re used to doing all of the birthing planning, it might make your partner feel left out. Give them the opportunity to join you on your baby clothing expediiton to enjoy the time together. This will help them get more connected to the experience and your little one.
3. Go to antenatal classes together This is another key way to create the right bond for the journey of parenthood. Even though they can’t feel the baby themselves, getting prepared and going through the rhythms of it with you will make your partnership stronger.
4. Figure out your finances Sometimes issues can come from the unknown and stress of the future. If your partner is feeling concerned about your money with a new family member, take time to go over your finances together.
5. Keep dating! Keep the romance alive by picking out some new and creative dates to go on together. It is so easy to get wrapped up in your pregnancy that you forget to make the extra time for each other. Make sure to pencil in some time on the calendar to watch your favourite movies or check out the ceramic studio down the street.
6. Make each other feel seen Feeling special is integral to each person in the relationship. Leaving each other notes or tiny gifts can brighten anyone’s day and remind them that no matter how busy you get, you’re always thinking of them. Take a few seconds a day to make them feel cared for.
7. Plan your babymoon A babymoon is the perfect time to get away together and reconnect. Keep your relationship fresh and fun by planning a special getaway to the countryside or beach. Getting the extra time alone will reignite your excitement for birth but also your individual relationship.
8. Give a massage or take a bath together If finding your sexual groove isn’t coming as easily as usual, try out some other romantic ways to get close physically. Scheduling one hour to take a bath together can make all the difference in slowing down and remembering the connection you have.
In the end, the changes to your relationship are inevitable so don’t be alarmed when pressure comes. Adding an entire new life to the mix is a massive adjustment and some effort will have to be made. Taking each other out on fun dates and making communication your top priority will keep you both happy and ready for your little one to finally join your family!