How to talk to your child about disability and differences
Children are naturally curious about the world around them. They notice differences in people and don’t hesitate to ask questions or point things out. Whilst this can put us in a socially awkward spot, it’s also an opportunity.
It can be tempting to shush them or redirect their attention, but that can make differences seem like something to be ashamed of.
Instead, acknowledging their curiosity and providing a simple, age-appropriate explanation helps build understanding and empathy.
Here’s how you can navigate some common scenarios with warmth and confidence.
When your child sees someone using a wheelchair
“That’s their way of moving! Everybody moves differently – some people use wheelchairs, some use canes, and some walk.”
People use wheelchairs for many reasons. Some have used them since they were little, while others might need them because of an accident or a condition that affects their muscles.
If your child is curious and the person seems open to chatting, saying hello is always a friendly way to connect.
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When your child asks why someone has a hearing aid
“That’s how they listen! Some people hear differently, and hearing aids help make sounds clearer – just like glasses help people see better.”
Some people are born with hearing differences, while others experience changes in their hearing over time. If your child ever talks to someone with a hearing aid, it’s helpful to speak clearly and face them so they can hear better.
When your child points out someone making loud noises or clapping
“That’s how they express themselves! Everyone communicates in different ways – some people talk, some use their hands, and some make sounds or movements with their bodies.”
Some people’s brains work differently, and they might not use words the way we do. Movements like flapping hands, rocking or making sounds – known as stimming – help them feel comfortable and happy. It’s just another way of interacting with the world. A smile and a friendly attitude go a long way.
When your child notices someone with a prosthetic leg
“That helps them walk and move around! Isn’t it amazing how different bodies work in different ways?”
Some people are born without limbs, while others may have lost one due to an accident or illness. A prosthetic leg helps them walk, run, and play – just like anyone else.
If they ever want to talk about it, they’ll let us know, but we can always be kind and treat them like any other friend.
When your child asks why someone has an assistance dog
“That’s a working dog! Some dogs help people see, hear, or feel safe – they have an important job, just like police dogs or rescue dogs.”
Some people need assistance dogs to help them in their daily lives. These dogs might guide them if they have vision loss, alert them to sounds, or even remind them to take medication. When a dog is wearing a special harness or vest, it means they’re working, and we should always ask before patting them
When your child sees an older kid struggling with their emotions
“It looks like they’re having a tough time. Remember when you’ve felt really upset too?”
Sometimes, a child’s brain or body processes things differently, and they might express frustration in unexpected ways. It’s important to show kindness and remember that we all have different ways of handling our emotions.
When your child asks about a classmate taking daily medication
“Some people need medicine because their bodies need extra care – just like we eat food to give us energy.”
There are lots of reasons someone might take medicine during the day, like allergies, asthma, diabetes, or something else their body needs help with. Just like wearing glasses or using a wheelchair, taking medication is simply part of their routine.
When your child notices someone wearing a hijab or traditional clothing
“That’s part of their culture or religion! People wear different clothes for lots of reasons – sometimes for special occasions, sometimes every day.”
A hijab is a headscarf that some Muslim women wear as part of their faith. Just like how we all have different hairstyles, favourite clothes, or things important to our families, what someone wears can have special meaning to them.
It’s always great to be curious and respectful of different traditions and cultures.
When your child points to someone sleeping rough
“That person might not have a home right now. Sometimes people go through really hard times and don’t have a safe place to stay.”
There are many reasons someone might be sleeping outside – they may have lost their job, become sick, or not have a family to help them. It’s important to be kind and remember that everyone deserves care and respect. If we ever want to help, we can donate food, clothes, or money to charities that support them.
When your child is concerned about someone affected by drugs and acting differently
“That person might be unwell or struggling with something really hard. Sometimes people use drugs or alcohol to try and cope with pain or problems, but it can make them act differently.”
It’s okay to feel unsure when we see someone behaving in a way that doesn’t make sense to us.
The best thing we can do is stay safe and remember that they are still a person who deserves kindness. If we’re ever worried, we can tell a grown-up so they can help.
Wrapping it up
Whether it’s about someone’s body, mind, or circumstances, teaching kids to be kind and accepting is one of the most valuable lessons we can give them.
Differences are a normal part of life, whether they’re visible or not. The more kids talk about them, the more understanding and empathetic they become.
A little curiosity, respect, and kindness can make a big difference.
By creating a safe space for open conversations, we can raise children who celebrate diversity and make the world a more inclusive place for everyone.
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